It's a confusing world, isn't it? We are told to trust ourselves and yet we're told in the next breath to almost always look for a second opinion. So which answer is the right one? Trust yourself, or discuss with others to make sure we've got it right?
Dare I say both, while leaning closer to the former rather than the latter? In the end though, the only one you have to answer to, is yourself. So make sure you can take the heat once your choices are made. Can you be ok with not listening to that little voice in your head beckoning you one way or the other?
It's not as if I'm saying that we should hash out every little detail with others to make sure we're all copacetic. I'm just saying that its ok to feel unsure and it's ok to discuss these things with those you trust.
First and foremost though, trusting yourself is the most important lesson in this life and one that we should learn at a young age. We do have a voice inside of us that tells us right from wrong. In fact when I was a child, I would get a wave of emotion come over me right before I was about to get caught with my hand in the proverbial cookie jar or due to things that I had not brought on myself. It could be a week later and that wave for whatever situation would warn me of danger that was lurking ahead. What's my point? I listen to that voice. Whenever I do not listen to that voice, that feeling, I suffer more than need be.
Sometimes we actually think that our protective and self-preserving intuition is a harsh judgement without any bearing. We make excuses for the feelings we have and why. This doesn't serve us. My first instinct is usually the right one.
An example of what I am attempting to convey:
I had a feeling about someone we had met years ago. I felt as if this person was presenting one face to the public while hiding the other in private or in 'real life', off camera. At first they were suspiciously quiet and not very open and to me, that is always something I will question. I didn't trust this person and thought that there was something off. There was something in the shift in their eyes, in the way they told certain stories. Some things I can't put into words. (that always makes things complicated, especially if you try to explain these warnings to others) Instead of listening to my feelings and thoughts in this regard, I decided to listen to this persons words. I had convinced myself that I was jaded by past experiences and decided that I should put this 'paranoia' aside and give this person a chance. I had no real reason to doubt their sincerity or integrity. Out in the public eye, this person did good works for the community surrounding them.
After spending serious time with this person, I began to see the signs of my initial 'feelings', 'twinges of concern', 'personal warning shot' come crying out into the open. People usually cannot hide their true selves very long when you're in their personal space at length.
I realized what was being presented to the public was not the same person behind the scenes in 'real life'. The help being called for out in the world, were not works being done personally in their life. I decided these truths would do no harm to me, just to this individual. This was not my business.
Funny, in my life how things become my business. You see, if someone does something to others that is offensive, they will, in time, yes sooner or later, do the same things to you.
So when you think that you are judging someone based on their actions with others, regardless of how they treat you and what they say, you should see it for what it is. Don't tell yourself little white lies in order to forgive someone's trespasses against your integrity or morals. Don't give others a green light to walk all over you.
It's time we truly began to sit with ourselves, trust ourselves, love and respect the outcome of this magic. Because that's truly what this is: magic. A little self-reliant spell that will never fail you. Trust in Yourself.
Trust in yourself.
Know yourself inside out.
Don't pretend with your true likeness.
No masks when you see the looking glass.
Be exactly who you are and trust that you are enough!
Teach our children to trust themselves.
Remember what your intuition is.
Learn how to hone it. Grow it. Feed it.
Learn to listen to it.
It's that piece of you that is all-knowing guided by invisible, benevolent hands of a you that knows full and well.
Teach our children to trust their instincts.
Remember who you are and why you're here at the very core of it all.
Go out and live that truth. Be who you are without apologies. Live for those things that grow you and serve you as you serve them. Never allow anyone to push you aside and make you feel like you are less. Be you and be great at it.
Teach our children well.
It is the simplest, most intricate events in this life that cultivate slowly to make the greatest things happen. These small weavings through time are a treasures we often overlook. Walk each moment in a way that leaves you whole and not wanting. Not always the way it goes but surely the way most rewarding, most memorable and most pleasing when hindsight sits at your feet, beckoning you to understand the lesson.
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