“There is no greater heaven than the heart of a loving mother
She takes care of you when you are still in her womb.
She nurtures you after you are born.
She hurts when you fall,
She celebrates when you make your first steps.
She is the only person who genuinely cares about you.
She loves you as she loves herself.
Her heart is your true paradise."
The Great Pearl of Wisdom
So much of what I do is because I am a mother to 2 of the most wonderous children I have ever known and of course I just might be biased but I call it how I see it.
I think in many ways this society is confused by what a mother should be. All I can say is that learned well what a mother should be from all the ways I promised myself I would not repeat in the mistakes of my own mother and hers. How many mothers have forgotten what it means to be a nurturer in this day where we have been told that being a mother is just not enough? Careers and prestige and to stand toe to toe and shoulder to shoulder with a man in the workplace is somehow much more important than raising the adults of tomorrow.
It is so bizarre to me when I know, with the strength, love, support, and contributions of a very involved father and partner that I do stand, toe to toe and shoulder to shoulder as an equal yet without comparison and that I have nothing to prove because of my gender. I also, always have had an extremely strong mothering and nurturing instinct within me that drives me to feel this way.
I'm not saying that all women should stay at home to be solely mothers. I am saying that those of us who wish to, should stop letting society guilt us into feeling as if we are somehow not enough. I devote so much of everything to my children and still do, but I am now in a space where they have grown and do not need me quite so much as they did when they were babes, or wee children. I now have more time to have created a business and am able to nourish that with my children's' love and also their help. They see all that their mother and father have done, as a family and what we have overcome and accomplished and this is some of the best life experiences I think their father and I could ever give them.
Trust me when I say that I remember missing my parents...I didn't care about the things we had that they could buy for us...their time was all I craved, their attention, their nourishing love, and support.
Being a mother who is present, loving, nurturing and so much more is quite possibly the hardest job any of us have ever had. It's definitely, the most fulfilling and rewarding and nothing short of the greatest gift we could ever have birthed onto ourselves and the most precious seed our partners could plant within our garden. I despise how our partners are somehow discounted, when without them, we'd never know what it means to be a mother in the first place.
I am not taking away from those who are without children, I am speaking only about mothers. I can't imagine being one who would abandon these beautiful, small and full hearts. I cannot imagine leaving them in wanting, without my love, support, and guidance. There are those days they make me want to tear my own hair out, but you know, even watching our family pets, the pups drive their Mama around the bend some days, she nips their necks, barks loudly and sharply at them and they're good as gold again!
Mothers, remember your gifts that you offer to your children and your families. You are here to do works that are not meant for everyone. Remember their tiny little souls and psyches are always in your hands. Love them, protect them, and be real with them. They'll always remember your love and it will carry them through so much. Fortify them with it and they will amaze you and this beautiful world.
Why photos of animals and their babies?
As I look at these photos I've chosen from a random internet search of 'animals and their babies' I decided not to add any human mothers in order to stress a point. When did we separate ourselves from the animal kingdom? When did we think we were not animals ourselves? And why is it that I feel as if too many mothers today take care of their young in a way that is not as natural, loving and pure than mothers in the wild? Probably because it's true and I'm onto something.
Author: Cari-Lee Miller
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